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Wali: marriage questions answered by scholars

This topic has 3 questions. Each is a short summary of a qualified scholar’s answer, with a link to the full fatwa.

About this topic

A wali is a bride’s guardian in marriage, usually her father, or another close male relative when her father is not available. The wali looks after her interests: he gets to know a proposal, speaks with the other family and takes part in the nikah. The schools of thought differ on how far the wali’s consent is required, especially for an adult woman, which is one reason the topic raises so many questions.

People commonly ask who can act as a wali and in what order, what happens when a father is absent, refuses a proposal or is not Muslim, how a wali differs from a wakil (an agent appointed to act for someone in the contract), and how a wali can take part when a couple meets through a marriage app. The answers below come from qualified scholars at the sources credited. Read each full fatwa, and ask a scholar you trust about your own situation.

Questions and answers

  • Parents refuse a good man's proposal because of his past; what should the daughter do?

    A young woman asked what to do when her parents turned down a proposal from a practising man because he is divorced and his parents are divorced, even though she values his religion and character. The Darul Iftaa answer, checked and approved by Mufti Ebrahim Desai, replied that her judgement of him is not yet a sound basis, since a person's true character often shows only after marriage. It said her parents have a reasonable concern because his past is known, and that their advice comes from care for her, not from wanting to make marriage difficult. She is advised to weigh their view, pray istikhara, and turn to Allah with salat-ul-haajah, dua and dhikr, without letting emotion override reason. The answer does not discuss whether the parents' consent is legally required.

    Answered by Mufti Ebrahim Desai, Darul Iftaa MahmudiyyahFatwa #39644Summarised on Nikkup

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  • Can the bride's wali also be one of the witnesses at her nikah?

    The asker wanted to know whether the bride's wali can also witness her appointment of a representative (wakalah) and the nikah itself, and whether the wakil can be one of the witnesses. Shaykh Yusuf Badat answered that the wali may witness both the wakalah and the nikah, as long as he is not the bride's parent, grandparent, child or grandchild. The wakil may likewise be one of the witnesses under the same condition, so the two roles do not have to be filled by different people. The answer bases this on Al-Fatawa al-Hindiyyah, which does not accept the testimony of parents and children for each other, or of spouses for each other. It does not discuss whether the wali has to be present at the nikah.

    Answered by Shaykh Yusuf Badat, Mathabah (via IslamQA.org)Summarised on Nikkup

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  • Can a nikah take place without the wali's consent, or without witnesses?

    The asker wanted to know under what conditions a marriage contract can be made without the consent of the bride's guardian, or without witnesses. Shaykh Yusuf Weltch answered that a marriage made without the wali's consent is valid, but that doing so is not permitted except in a genuine, religiously recognised need. If a wali refuses without a valid reason and this causes the woman real harm, or if all her guardians are non-Muslim, a mufti may appoint a wakil to act for her. He added that the wali may still seek an annulment if she marries, without his consent, someone who is not a suitable match for her under the Shariah. Witnesses, however, are not waived: the nikah is invalid without at least two adult Muslim witnesses, either two men or one man and two women.

    Answered by Shaykh Yusuf Weltch, SeekersGuidance (via IslamQA.org)Summarised on Nikkup

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