Must a man involve his own family when discussing a nikah with the girl's family?
Summary
A young man wanted to talk about the nikah directly with the girl's parents and bring his own family in only later, so that his plan for a simple nikah would not be overridden. The reply said it is not obligatory to involve his family in every discussion, but that lying or making excuses to delay would not be permissible, and it advised being open with the girl's family about his wishes. It added that the husband must give mahr, while he may choose not to ask for anything in the form of jahez.
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Is it permissible to call off an engagement without a valid reason?
The asker wanted to know whether an engagement may be ended without any particular reason. The reply explained that an engagement is only a promise to marry later, not a binding bond, so a person who made it sincerely and then decides against the marriage may end it, though some scholars regard that as mildly disliked. It added that deliberately promising with the intention of breaking the promise is unlawful, and that gifts given in earnest need not be returned although returning them may be considerate.
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Would a nikah with a Christian woman who accepts his conditions be valid, and is it advisable?
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